Getting closure and reaching out are two different questions, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. One may not help with the other

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Should I try to seek closure with a person I used to love but drifted apart from, or is it best to leave them be?

There’s a person I used to be really close to who doesn’t talk to me any more. We didn’t have a fight. We just drifted, but I still think about them all the time.